I am strong and independent. I am confident and happy. I have a career I am proud of and a salary that’s enough. I can take care of myself. I have friends who I love deeply and I have a family to fall back on. By all feminist standards, I literally don’t need you. It’s 2016 and if I ever thought anything differently, what an assault against femininity everywhere that would be. The idea that I don’t need you or anyone else to complete me is preached on the internet 100 times a day, creeping into every subliminal message, tweet and timeline story.
But I do need you. I need you to open jars and to do the dishes when I don’t have it in me. I need you to tell me I’m beautiful, to notice when I need your kind words. I need you to remind me of the commitment I made before God and man to love, honor and cherish you every day of my life. I need you to be exactly who you are so we can live the life we were created to live. I need you to make me a better friend. I need your loyalty and tenacity to help guide my own – to push me to keep going when I want to quit. I need your sense of humor to make everything better. I need you to love me to, hold me, to kiss me. I need you to befriend me, to laugh with me, to drink with me and watch awful tv together. I need you to make me laugh and to let me cry and to give me room to have an emotion somewhere in-between.
I need you my friend, my companion, my confidante.
I need you to tell me when I’m wrong, to correct my path. I need you to forgive me when I make mistakes. I need you to tell me when I’m right, to challenge me to push me to make me more than me.
I need you because without you there is no me.
I need you to meet me where I am. In my peaks, in my valleys. When I fail and when I succeed. I need you in every part, along side me, helping me navigate new territory we’ve never seen.
So while I don’t need you, I need you. You see that right? You see how me as myself needs you as yourself? You see how much I need you in every part of my life for me to be me. You’re the brightest thing I’ve got.
Thank you for letting me need you every day of my life. Happy Anniversary.
All my love,