I was recently in a social environment with a girl who is both stunningly beautiful and really enjoyable to be around. We have mutual friends in common so we actually find ourselves together quite a lot, and while I enjoy my time spent around this girl, I always leave each interaction feeling so fake. I was never sure why, because I genuinely do like this girl and we get along really well, but after a couple of months of light social interactions, it finally dawned on me what was going on.
Flattery tennis. She liked to play rounds of flattery tennis, and I had unknowingly been signing up, and showing up, for her matches for months.
Flattery tennis, to better clarify, is when two humans (mostly female, let’s be honest) get together and hit the ball back and forth with compliments, often times depreciating their own value on the return hit. [Read more…]