There’s an interesting stigma that you feel plagued with when you get married young. A tiny sliver, if even just 1% of you, feels like maybe you’re missing out on something by committing to another human forever at such an early part of your life. Even when reason kicks in and tells you that you’re wrong and what you’ve done is commit to an idea, a state of being, a lifestyle that improves your life so richly, there’s always someone to tell you that you made a mistake in doing this so early in life. But everyone has an opinion that ultimately just proves or disproves their own unhappiness and so when someone that you don’t care about or know tells you that you made a mistake, you just have to realize that’s exactly what they’re doing- they’re just making you feel like you’re missing out because maybe they actually feel like they’re missing out.
Early last week sometime after midnight I was wide awake and not wanting to sleep and so I made my husband stay awake with me. You know the state of delirium that you get in late at night and we just ended up laughing for hours about everything under the sun. As we laid wide awake in bed, knowing well that we had to wake up in less than four hours for a very full and long day of work, Joseph turned and said “I want to go to sleep but I’m just having so much fun!“ I realized then that these little pockets of utter joy are what make married life so sweet. I think that marriage is the union of two people that can laugh together about cheap wine from Dwayne Reade at 1:30 in the morning and can wake up the next day and laugh about it again over gchat. Marriage is these sweet moments of unadulterated bliss that remind you that this partnership you entered into is so, so good.
Everyone has their own path to take in life and even if yours doesn’t look like mine, I would never change mine. I would never change getting married “young” simply because there might be more fun to be had on my own. Because the thing is, I’ve never had this much fun in my entire life. I’ve never loved a single moment more than I love this one. I have never enjoyed 1:30 AM as much as I did last week when my best friend said “I’m just having so much fun!” This is the ultimate culmination of everything that we worked for the first 25 years of our lives, and I would never change even one single step. Young or old, whenever you get married, I wish this joy on every one of you. I hope everyone gets to experience this in their lifetime.